Good receivers make more

Posted on the July 14th, 2008 under Careers & Education by Philippe Desrochers

Question:
“My father hasn’t been with his company for a very long time, six or seven months, but he overworks himself way too much. His performance is exceedingly high and his company loves him very much. But even though he just got his salary increased, I still don’t think it is enough compared to how hard he works and how much work he gets done. Is it possible for my father to ask for a raise in his salary when he just got one?”

Answer:
Caring enough about your father to act on his behalf is commendable. Family is very important and you are standing up for him. There is a simple little book entitled The Four Agreements which shows how to have freedom and true happiness in our loves. One of the book’s suggestions is “Always Do Your Best.”

When you do this, “you will avoid self-judgment, self abuse and regret.” Your father has figured this out and I would be willing to bet he is a happy man.

Tipping point:
But has your father reached his tipping point yet? That is when the pain of being underpaid is greater than the pleasure of hard work. It usually takes this to find the motivation to request an increase in pay.

Good receiver:
Your father is a great giver. Is he a great receiver? Money is the ultimate test of his skill in this area. For every giver there has to be a receiver. Why not your father?

Two way street:
No worries however. Nature will take care of this. If we give more than we receive we get resentful. This is a good sign. It means: “Ask for more money.” For a relationship to be healthy and productive, it must be balanced. If not, one party will take advantage of the other. That is an animal law of the jungle.

Next step:
Wait until the next pay raise period. Step one for success in life is to play by the rules. You build trust when you do this. Visit www.monster.ca for great salary negotiation techniques. Then simply ask:

Weekly remedy:
Ask yourself this question:
“What is my monetary worth?” That number is your own personal ceiling. If you want more, learn to be a better receiver.

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